O, Canada!

No, it hasn't been 2 months since the first date with the Canadian, but I've actually been too work busy to blog during my 9-5. My second date, however, was a good month after our first one. I appreciated the fact that he planned and made a date ahead of time in the midst of his travel.

The anticipation built and I had high expectations of this date. He made a dinner reservation and I had the perfect reason to dress up. The Canadian was just as handsome and I remembered and the conversation picked up comfortably. Once we were seated, we had identical rapport with the waiter and were in complete agreement with the laissez-faire approach to ordering (blindly having the waiter choose our dinner). I was pleased to find that he had an equally adventurous palate and impeccable table manners. You'd be surprised. He also served me which I found quite refreshing. Actually, I can't think of another occasion where a man actually took that kind of initiative (checklist professor included).

We continued easy conversation through dinner and 2 glasses of wine and when he suggested one at his house, I broke my rules and obliged. In spite of my dentist's predictions (yep, he's a reader), I swore there would be zero kissing on this date, but the wine swayed my decision elsewhere. Once at his condo, he let me choose from a copious selection of wine and poured us glasses. I wavered in this awkward stage of nervousness and inevitability before we settled on the couch and watched lord knows what on TV. I felt like a middle schooler on the brink of a terrifying hand hold in a movie. Thankfully, he finally leaned over and kissed me and... there was NOTHING. No sparks. I wasn't even looking for fireworks, but had expected something. He wasn't a bad kisser, but within a few seconds it was evident that there was zero chemistry between us.

Yes, he was intelligent. Yes, he was good-looking. Yes, he had a fantastic body. Yes, he's well-traveled. He even made it to the second date without me completely dismissing him! Unfortunately, no amount of checklist items can fabricate chemistry. I debated going out with him again, but there are some things that can't be ignored.  I know some of you are reading this thinking I'm crazy, but you either have it or you don't and I'm a firm believer that my partner and I will have it off the bat.