Low Expectations

Having been on multiple disappointing first dates, I try to set the bar extremely low for future ones. I returned from vacation and decided to download Bumble after a friend's success rate. Compared to match, Bumble actually has attractive, accessible men! The whole "women message first" concept is enlightening and allows me to reassess a match before texting. I was pretty swipe happy and made some split second decisions in the first day of downloading.

I did, however, match with several good-looking and seemingly normal men. After chatting with one, I scheduled my first bumble day within days. My friend's "babe" approval built some anticipation though I maintained a relatively low excitement level. We met for drinks on a weeknight and even his slightly nerdy attire (khakis and a polo, straight from the office) didn't put me off in the initial minutes. He was cute so he instantly gained some leeway in that department; I could change him.

We got to talking about our recent travels and I was happy to find that he also had a case of wanderlust. He was culturally aware (huge) and had even worked abroad for a portion of his career. This was a good start. We enthusiastically discussed our favorite destinations and cuisines and easily connected over our interests. He also cited that though early, he'd see us as admirable travel companions; I agreed. We talked about the summers of our youth (him: the cape, me: summer camp) and shamelessly shared awkward stories.We continued to talk about everything and nothing well past my bedtime and 2 glass limit. He impressed me with his extensive vocabulary and didn't have to ask me what a word meant.
I wondered what our babies would look like. (I was past my wine limit)

The conversation was so rapid and easy and something I hadn't experienced in a long time. We even ventured to a bar across the street, ran into a friend, and continued into the double digit hours.  I had all the feelings on this first date and even allowed a bar first kiss. How gauche! He asked my weekend plans and scheduled a second date within the same week. I was so excited.

The next day I met my bestie and downloaded the date play-by-play. She was in complete agreement that I was basically in love and ready to plan my life with this man. I never have these kind of first dates!